— Daniel Belcher (@lot3k) May 13, 2015
Category Archives: Faith
For those who’s fathers were not involved in their lives. There comes a burden that is left, a sense of abandonment that has long lasting impact to your sense of self worth.
Your worth is not determined by the subjective view of others, but rather the value ascribed to you through grace.
The absence of that man from your life is not a sign of your faults, but rather their own faults. Do not allow that to define you, but rather to inspire you to be more engaged in the lives of others, understanding full well the impact that negligence and selfishness has on another persons life. Remain cautious to not place your self worth in what you do or what you wear or who you know, for all things can and will fail; making them a precarious foundation that you will have built for yourself. For me as a believer, that significance is found in Christ; but for those who will and will not believe I say to you:
Persevere through your failings and setbacks, knowing that so long as there is breath in your lungs, you have the ability to be a positive force in this life.
To my beautiful daughters Maggie and Alana,
Being a woman takes an amazing amount of courage, faith, and unimaginable patience and love. It takes courage to trust in yourself when others say you aren’t good enough, pretty enough, or strong enough. My daughters, you are beautiful not because of your figure, or your face, but by the sum of your total character. Know this, believe this, and be yourself.
You do not need a man to define you. Your value is not determined by who you are with, but who you are, and by what you do. Never compromise yourself by what you think you should be, but rather stay true to what you know to be right and carry on. Failures will come, but it does not mean you are a failure. Play to your strengths and accept your shortcomings, but don’t let those shortcomings define who you are. When it comes to men, sex does not say I love you. Any man who tells you that does not love you, but values you for only for what you can do for him; not for who you are. When you find the right man, he will desire you, but will not pressure you. He will seek your heart, not your body. The difference for you will be hard to tell because you will already be seeking his heart, but if you did not give him your body and he goes; though it will hurt, your answer will be clear.
When that man comes, and he asks for your hand; we will know that you’re making the right choice. Work to build him up, trust him with your heart and your body. He may be the head of the household; but you will be the heart of the family, that which brings it to life. If you are ever in doubt of what a good wife looks like, look to your mother.
Never be afraid to chase your dreams, but don’t idly dream. Success comes to those who do, rather than those who wait. Do not compromise yourself for your dreams however; and do not let anyone tell you your dream is too grand or too boring. If your dream is to be a stay at home mother, or the president; then work for it. Do not let society tell you what you can or cannot be because of your gender.
As for you as it is for your brothers, I pray you will be obedient to Christ. Doing what your are called to do in faith; but I will love you anyway my precious baby girls.
– Your Dad
The gospel is the belief that the creator God, sent his son Jesus, to be a sacrifice for our sins; so that we could be with him forever. The wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23), and Jesus paid that price for us, in obedience to God the father (Mathew 26:39) so whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life (John 3:16). This belief brings the forgiveness of our past transgressions, and the removal of condemnation of our sin before God.
That means every lustful thought, spit in his face. Every hateful thought towards our fellow man, a Roman scourge to his back. Every lie, great or small that crosses our lips, a crown of thorns on his head. Every self serving and self glorifying action or thought, our cry to “CRUCIFY HIM”.
His reply; “father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34)
That’s the gospel. and for that reason, I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek. (Romans 1:16)
I wanted to say thank you to everyone who donated, attended trivia night, prayed for us, sent positive thoughts our way, or however you found a way to support us in this effort. We have raised enough to make it back to Toronto for another month of therapy; but we do plan on going back, and thanks to the generosity of so many, we are already well on our way towards that financial goal as well.
So thank you. Thank you so much. We have one last push, called 7 on the 7th. Where everyone who feels the need to help can donate 7 dollars on the 7th towards her continued therapy. You can find details on the Maggie in Motion website.
Again, thank you.
Some of you are aware, and have already done so much to help my daughter. To you I say thank you; seriously. Thank you so much; and believe me when I say those words are inadequate to convey my appreciation for your giving heart.
What are you talking about?
For others who are unaware, or who have intended to help, but haven’t yet. You can visit the donation site we’ve put together for our little Mooz here.
Our daughter has Cerebral Palsy. A disorder caused by brain damage she suffered in utero, through birth trauma, or both. For her, it’s a limitation to a large portion of her fine and gross motor ability; but cognitively she’s sharp as a knife.
We’ve found a place in Canada, it is world renowned for it’s ability to enable people with these sorts of disabilities to do far more than was ever originally expected of them. We’ve been once, Maggie showed AMAZING progress, and we’d like to go again.
That is where we see the problem. Financially we are not able to afford another visit without contributions from caring souls such as yourself. Each visit costs us between 11,000 and 15,000 depending on living accommodations we can arrange during our stay. Thanks to the generosity of those mentioned above; we are already at/near the 50% mark for our next visit in March.
I implore you, please consider, thoughtfully, prayerfully if you are able to help us.
Before I get going, I just want to state this is intended for my sons. All, obviously, are welcome to read it.
To my dear sons Will and Jake,
A man is the sum of his actions, not his words. Words are powerful, but if there is nothing to sustain their value, they are pointless dribble. Likewise, your words should be of value and reliable. If you say you will do something, then do it. Use your words to lift up others rather than tear them down; and to show others you care for them.
A man does not gripe, grumble, or complain. He accepts what is given him, and seeks to make it better with dignity and respect; not by the worthless prattling of his tongue. Understanding of course that at times you will need to confide in others your worries and your concerns, but don’t make yourself a constant source of negative discourse.
A man is gentle and protective of those who are less fortunate, or less capable than they are. They do not lord over others or treat them in a condescending fashion. He leads, and by leading he serves; and presents himself as an example. He asks nothing of others he is not willing to do himself should it be required. Not of course to speak of things he is not capable of doing, but in such a situation shows due respect for those more capable. He does not act petulant towards his superiors, but instead seeks to grow to be as capable. If his superiors aren’t as capable, he still shows the due respect required for that title and relies on his actions to show his worth rather than demeaning speech.
A man does not raise his hand in violence, lest it is to protect the helpless, and will gladly lay down his life for others if it is required. Simply put, it takes far more strength to stay your hand, than it does to let it fly.
A man never strikes a woman. A man never forces himself onto a woman. A man never pressures a woman to do anything she is not willing to do on her own. A woman is not a trophy, but a precious person. A daughter, a sister, a mother. Generally under appreciated in our society today, but the brace that holds most things together. You are of no greater worth, and you will not act otherwise. A man respects a woman, and when he finds the right one, loves that woman more than he loves himself.
A man does not fear commitment, and when he finds the right woman, he will marry her. A man does not leave his wife. A man will do anything in his power to make his wife feel safe, secure, and loved. I know that a person is responsible for their own feelings, one can not force security, happiness, and love into another; but that is not an excuse to stop trying, EVER! If you are failing to do this, you are a selfish boy; only interested in your own contentment. Admittedly that may sound harsh, as what is required may not be possible or even practical. At those times discernment is required about what should or should not be done, but the final decision should never be reached for the sake of personal gain; but for the gain of both. If a concession needs to be made, it is not weak to concede to your wife; and it will not go unappreciated if it’s from the heart.
Know that making a child doesn’t make you a man, raising one does; and a man raises his children in integrity, and shows them all the love and attention they deserve (They do not however take precedence over his wife.). He is patient with them, he plays with them, but he doesn’t hesitate to rebuke them. He is the firmest, and gentlest hand that his children will know. A sons first hero, and a daughters first love. His heart beats for them, and he lets them know that they are his pride. The words of a father to his children can be the difference in how high they fly, or how low they sink. Do not be an anchor, but wings for your children.
Finally, a Christian man loves Jesus, and seeks to emulate him in his every day life. Loving others, always forgiving, and obedient to God; even to the point death (literal, or metaphorical). Life is not perfect, it’s a series of heart aches and joys. You will not be strong enough to do it alone; I certainly don’t. But for as long as you have me, I will do what I can to help you; and I pray that you find peace and strength in Christ and the faith that these teachings are a part of, but I will love you any way my sons.
– Your Dad
The Belcher’s have officially moved into our new home, bought our new home, and have the interwebs back in our possession.
I’ve been spending a fair amount of time with CM12 now for work, and hopefully once my personal life dies down a bit, and I start getting back into a normal flow I’ll get some interesting CM12 content posted.